“Put Your Own Oxygen Mask on First”: How I Take Care of Myself to Take Care of Others

I have heard the phrase from the pre-flight safety briefing—”put your own oxygen mask on first before assisting others”—countless times, especially when discussing stress in the dental profession. This metaphor truly makes sense. However, the reality is that putting oneself first is much harder in practice than it sounds in theory.

We, dentists, care for patients every day, yet we often ignore the constant care we ourselves need. Early in my professional journey, I quickly realized that balancing personal life and clinical practice requires immense emotional effort. By the end of a workday, one can feel completely drained—not physically, but emotionally.

Self-care is not a single decision, but a system

Over time, I have come to the conclusion that there is no single universal answer to the question of how to “put your own oxygen mask on first.” Self-care is a complex and dynamic process. It requires continuously expanding one’s “toolkit” and engaging in an honest dialogue with oneself about one’s own needs.

Hobbies as a Way to Recharge

One of my ways of taking care of myself has become hobbies. After finishing dental school, I unexpectedly discovered the world of puzzles. This simple, almost mechanical activity helps me relax after work.

While assembling a puzzle, I shift my focus from clinical decisions, patients, and documentation to something neutral. This allows my brain to “rest” after leaving the clinic. Such a small ritual has become an important part of my daily recovery.

Support is Always at Hand

Another important resource is access to psychological support through the Talkspace Go app, which I use for free as a member of the American Dental Association.

The app helps me be more mindful of my time and emotional state. No matter where I am—between appointments, at the store, or at home—I can open the app and give myself a few minutes.

The resources are conveniently structured by topic, making it easy to find exactly what is needed at the moment. My favorites are guided breathing exercises. On days when nothing goes according to plan and even a deep breath seems difficult, two minutes of guided breathing is often enough to regain control over my state.

Taking Care of Yourself is Taking Care of Your Patients

Practicing self-care helps me maintain my mental health and resilience. This, in turn, allows me to be more attentive, empathetic, and professional in my work with patients. But, just as importantly, it helps me be better for myself as well.

В профессии, где мы постоянно отдаём, забота о себе — это не роскошь и не эгоизм. Это необходимое условие долгой, устойчивой и человечной клинической практики.